This week’s newspaper is a little different than usual, which is very intentional. As I was preparing special issue topics, I knew I wanted to create something that would push the boundaries of news and discuss the issue of relationships and sex. As a college newspaper, we have a unique opportunity to discuss issues that wouldn’t typically be discussed in newsrooms.
It is important to me that the Beacon serves UT students as more than just a newspaper. It should also serve as an advocate — to let others know, through our coverage, that their voices and concerns are heard and valued.
I know all too well the ups and downs of college romances. Over the last four years, I have tried and failed a few relationships.
Even so, as I write this, I’m learning how to embrace my “new normal” after just recently ending a long-term relationship.
As I talk to my friends, I’m reminded of how lonely so many feel. When you’re in a relationship, it can be hard to recognize this, and even harder to talk about, since so much language surrounds love, and all that comes with it is seen as controversial or taboo — not to mention awkward.
It’s hard being vulnerable.
Looking around, sometimes it feels like everyone is either getting married or is actively involved in hook-up culture. Where are all the single people just trying to figure out themselves and their careers?
While it may not seem like it, they are all around you, probably asking the same questions.
We aren’t as alone as we seem.
My heart has been stomped on, beat down and shattered as I’ve attempted dating in college. Yet, I would not trade my experiences for the world, I wish all the boys I’ve known the best, and I thank them for teaching me all the lessons about love that I’ve learned.
Even if it hurt at the time.
I have every reason to think that men suck. I have every reason to believe they are all bad and “only want one thing.”
However, I do not believe this. I still believe there are good men out there, and just because I didn’t “find the one” doesn’t mean he isn’t out there and doesn’t exist.
I think many women my age put a lot of pressure on themselves to find their husbands in college, but I’m here to tell them that it’s OK if they don’t.
As one who has fallen victim to this unspoken social pressure, I get it.
So, if you’re like me and have given love the ol’ college try and failed miserably, this time of year may be hard for you, but you’re not alone.
You are strong, you are beautiful and there is someone out there for you. This world is much bigger than this campus — college is only the beginning, not the end.
As you continue reading, know that all stories were written with the intention of making students here more informed about all the stuff that happens “behind closed doors.”
That being said, I applaud all our Beacon editors, staff members, students and professional sources for being willing to be vulnerable and venture into topics that may be hard to discuss.
