Have you ever wished for a realistic toolkit to help you navigate life? I know I have.
In my 23 years, I’ve accumulated a wealth of experiences, and I’m excited to share 23 valuable life lessons that I’ve learned (and continue to learn) along the way.
I hope these insights can become an essential part of your own life toolkit.
Invest in yourself: The fearful thoughts of “Can I do it? Will I succeed?” are common concerns we all deal with. Whether big or small, investing in yourself is always going to be a wager you’re bound to win. You’ll never know until you try. My mom and dad have always encouraged me to invest in myself — it’s a lesson I’ll always honor.
Speak up for yourself: Be your own advocate. My dad has always taught me that you have to get comfortable with speaking up for yourself in all situations.
Rest is productive: In today’s culture, we’re told to “hustle” by over-extending ourselves, over-booking our schedules and continuously stacking up accolades. True productivity comes when you allow yourself to slow down.
Self care is true love: “Self-love is the best love,” R&B singer Ari Lennox said. I’m a firm believer in self-care and giving yourself grace. Whether that be treating yourself to a bowl of ice cream or spending time reading and listening to music. Giving back to yourself is the best type of love.
You don’t need to over-apologize: If you’re like me then you tend to over-apologize randomly. This habit is more common in women, and it’s one we must consciously work to break because it diminishes one’s self-assurance.
Growth is not linear: There’s no single model for measuring growth. We grow each and every day by the moment.
Go at your own pace: I’m starting my university journey at 23. I also got my driver’s license at 21 instead of the societally accepted age of 16. At times, it’s tough to feel like you’re “behind” or that everyone’s “ahead.” Our society tells us we have to experience certain things by certain ages, but everyone’s pace is unique.
Everything happens for a reason: You might not know the reason until you’re standing in it.
Money comes and goes: This is a lesson I’m learning from my mom. I’ve always been worried about money, so much so that I hoard every dollar I make. Money comes and money goes.
Network and build connections: Building friendships, meeting new people, joining clubs and organizations, introducing yourself to your professors and simply chatting with others will create a network of connections you always have.
It’s OK to outgrow people, places, hobbies, etc: Just because you’ve always loved something or excelled at something does not mean you have to continue nurturing it if you’ve outgrown it. Our needs and desires are always evolving and with that our surroundings as well.
Your story can inspire others: I’ve always been afraid to be vulnerable. There’s a past version of myself peeking through her eyes in horror that I’ve shared so much with my SEC university, but even if one person hears my story and feels heard or seen, that’s the best gift. Be brave and share your story — you matter, and your story could be the breakthrough someone else needs.
Celebrate yourself: This is something I’m still working on and I encourage you to as well. Celebrate all of your accomplishments.
There is so much more life to live: I often get worried that time is racing by. At the end of the day, we still have so much life to live and so many future versions of ourselves to meet which is exciting.
Don’t be afraid to experience things solo: I’ve attended many basketball games and various campus events alone since moving to UT this semester. A few years ago I was afraid of doing things alone, but I’ve discovered the true fear lies in missing out on experiences. I’m so glad I didn’t miss out on singing “Enter Sandman” by Metallica and swag surfing with fellow classmates at Food City Center during basketball games.
You’re allowed to reinvent yourself and your dreams: It’s alright for your dreams to change. We’re always evolving.
There’s no such thing as starting over, only starting anew: Every experience teaches a new lesson.
It’ll all work out: My grandfather always said “It’ll all work out.” My mom reminds me of this statement often.
Hard work and determination equals success: My parents have instilled in me the value of hard work and determination. With grit, you can do anything.
Trust your instincts: You know yourself better than anyone, so trust yourself.
Shift your perspective: This is a hard concept to execute — I’m still working on it, but by shifting your perspective, you can aid your brain in rewiring your thoughts more positively.
Protect your peace: The phrase “If it costs you your peace, it’s too expensive” is easier said than done. Sometimes, there are things we don’t enjoy but must do. As a people-pleaser, I understand how tough it can be to set firm boundaries, and I’m gradually working toward affirming this lesson. When it’s difficult, I try to spend time outside or do small things I love, like coloring and enjoying my own company. These little moments go a long way in enforcing boundaries.
No such thing as a life that’s better than yours: One of the greatest lessons, as taught by the legendary rapper J. Cole in his song “Love Yourz,” is the importance of embracing and loving your life as it is. It’s a lesson I hope to always honor.
I hope this advice brings you comfort and optimism. We’re all in the same boat of life, so let’s row together.
Marissa Hunt is a junior at UT studying journalism. She can be reached at [email protected].
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